Visualize Confidence – Real Confidence:
What It Is and What It Isn’t.
Like a strong tree that bends in hurricane-force winds, real confidence is rooted in what your inherent abilities are, and firmly grounded in the core belief that you do have the skills to act with certainty and assurance. Often times marked by a feeling of relaxed coolness, real confidence gives you freedom from embarrassment, and the conviction that “I can do it!”
As faith in yourself, real confidence is without haughtiness or conceit; it is the recognition that you are adequate, capable, competent and have the resources to accomplishment the tasks at hand. Real confidence isn’t something on the outside that you need to acquire, a specific quality of life in the far-off distant future, or the expectation of reaching an unrealistic goal without applying yourself.
It’s important to know that real confidence isn’t arrogant, aggressive, or stubborn. It doesn’t require brute willpower, or sheer force of personality.
Neither is real confidence manipulative, controlling of others, or demanding. And, most certainly, real self-confidence isn’t about making others yield to your demands or making them feel inferior while the cower beneath your supremacy.
Use guided imagery to regain your sense of confidence: Below are some examples:
- Going to a party and talking to someone new when you feel shy
- Asking the boss for a raise
- Dating again after divorce
- Making a career change
- Speaking in public
- Going on a job interview
- Going back to school
- Taking initiative when you’re filled with self-doubt
- Voicing your opinion when you feel small
- Caring less about what other think
- Standing up for yourself
- Having better sex
- Delivering difficult news to someone
- Feeling better about your body
- Facing the prospect of surgery
- Starting a new chapter in your life